Imagine for a moment you are just lying in your bed in the middle of the day. You are doing your nails or maybe catching up on a show you love. Then the ear piercing screams start, and as your family demands your attention, you feel as if your eardrums are being scratched at as every bone in your body goes from relaxed to tense.
You are someone who people depend on, and usually, you feel it’s a great honor to be so loved and relied upon. That being said, you need time to depend on yourself as well. Your family doesn’t always understand this. So, here are some of the top tips for training your family to respect your all-important “me time.”
Why is “Me Time” so Important?
It’s honestly a shame that this even needs to be explained, but in these modern times we as busy, dependable, caring women are losing all concept of self. What that means is that we are not internally aware of who we were meant to be any more outside of our current environment. This prevents us from bringing out our fullest potential both professionally and in happiness.
It’s not our fault, it’s not even our family’s fault, but either way, it is most definitely our responsibility to fix. “Me time” is essential in allowing us to meet ourselves again on occasion and really take a more in-depth look at who we are and how we can gain the most out of life.
Tips for Training:
Now even though this problem isn’t your family’s fault overall, that doesn’t mean they don’t sometimes accidentally interfere with the mission. So here are some useful tips on how to work with your family to inspire a more healthy understanding of your “me time”:
As with most things worthwhile in life, it starts with respecting yourself. If you don’t believe you deserve it, there is no reason for anyone else to believe so either. Wanting some “me time” is not selfish. You work hard to stay healthy with vitamins and exercise, and you always keep your time open for anyone in need. But, you are human, and you have needs just like everyone else. Never shrug that off.
Stand Your Ground
It can be so hard to stay strong and put your foot down when others need you, but if you don’t from time to time, you just end up resentful of them. Just like before, you shouldn’t think of this as something entirely wrong or even selfish. Plus, a tiny bit of independence never hurt anyone.
So keep telling yourself, even out loud if you must, how much you do, and how good this time will do for you and your family in the long run. Never give up, never surrender.
Start off Slow
You don’t need to start your “me time” with weekly overnight trips to the spa. Just start with something simple. This could be eating dinner away from the family weekly, or scheduling a 30-minute bath every other day.
Keep it Consistent
Consistency is key in this training process. If you decide to take some “me time,” try to make sure it’s planned if you are able to. Whether it’s daily, weekly, or monthly just make sure it is noted. This will allow you to set boundaries more easily during that time.
Don’t Guilt but Reward
After a while of having our private time interrupted, we tend to get a bit annoyed or even resentful. No matter what though, you cannot respond by attempting to guilt your family into letting you have it. It is passive aggressive and only causes both sides to resent each other.
They are aware of how much you do and how much you love each other even if they don’t say it. Try rewarding them if they respect your time. Try making their favorite meal, or give them some time of their own to show your appreciation. Positive enforcement always works best.
At the end of the day, family will always cause hiccups in your journey to self-peace, but they always give you a different type of peace: love. That love will be the greatest motivation in life, but a warm bath doesn’t hurt either.